Eoin Stephens reviews a new book by leading UK Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapist Paula Hall. Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective. A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Surviving Sex Addiction For Partners and Those Who Want to Help Them.
You wait years for a new book on Sex Addiction, written by an experienced practitioner on this side of the Atlantic, and then three come along at once.
Following her own Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction (2012), and Thaddeus Birchard’s CBT for Compulsive Sexual Behaviour (2015), Paula Hall has now added another substantial contribution with Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective: A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Surviving Sex Addiction For Partners and Those Who Want to Help Them.
My own therapeutic work with sex addiction has certainly highlighted for me the fact that partners can experience an added level of hurt, trauma, betrayal and shattering of trust when they are faced with this type of addiction. This reality is very clearly addressed in Hall’s book, under chapter headings such as:
- Why sex addiction hurts partners so much
- Surviving the trauma of discovery
- Repairing self-identity and self-esteem
- Rebuilding trust
With novel sexual opportunities now so easily accessible via the internet, this is an increasingly important area of therapeutic work. It is also a complex one, so books such as this are vital and repay detailed and repeated study. It is realistic but hopeful, and the author’s experience as a psychosexual therapist adds a welcome positive dimension to the long-term picture in relation to sexual recovery.
The Partner’s Perspective has been written to help partners and those who care about them to survive the shock of discovering their partner is a sex addict and to help them make decisions about the future of their relationships and their lives.
This book will be of benefit both to practitioners and to those who may find themselves in the situations described in the book.
You can purchase this book on Amazon.co.uk